Healing shattered dreams requires emotional honesty. Because the intellect is not emotional, it cannot provide the honesty required to heal a shattered dream. The core problem that occurs when a dream is shattered is when the intellect steps in to redefine emotional honesty with a solution, which leads to guilt. Guilt is supported by fear, and body anxiety is a symptom of fear. The way to heal the shattered dream is to undo the false emotion defined as guilt.
Before a shattered dream can be repaired it must first be defined. A definition leads to an interpretation, which leads to self understanding. Because it is impossible to find any solution that will lead to self understanding without first exploring a problem, the shattered dream is a means to remember how emotional integrity plays an important role in all problem solving.
Great philosophers tell us that life is a mirror that is reflected back to us. If this is true the people we meet and the circumstances we encounter throughout our lives must come from something that is reflected from somewhere deep within our psyche that has not yet been explored or defined. Because of this, it is difficult to understand that what we see with our eyes, is really a reflection of what we believe we want to see. If this was understood, problem solving would be much simpler.
It is a common practice for people to deny that problems stem from their own beliefs. This is because no one wants to be responsible for the problems they are encountering that appear to be out of their control, or in the external world. For instance, if I perceive that someone has mistreated me, I do not want to accept responsibility even if it was me that instigated the treatment or stood and took it. Accepting responsibility means that I must share in the guilt. But the truth about guilt remains a lie, and a truth and a lie cannot co-exist. Although truth can be shared, guilt cannot unless we believe it can. No matter how it is tried, it is impossible to share guilt. The only reason guilt is experienced is because it is believed in. Because it is believed in by a self aware individual, it remains within the mind of the one who believes in guilt. This is because self awareness is not shared awareness, it is personal.
All self aware guilt calls for self correction, not blame. This recognition is crucial for personal development and healthy emotional growth. Because the shattered dream leads to the projection of guilt, it is helpful to be honest concerning when a shattered dream occurs.
All guilt is intellectually defined when an emotional trauma occurs to innocence. Being innocent, the emotion that defines Love is shattered because it does not understand how to deal with an emotional trauma, so it makes something up. Making up an emotion that leads away from innocent Love leads to the false emotion called guilt.
Guilt is not supported by healthy Love, so it needs an unhealthy condition to support it. Love is supported by joy, and guilt is supported by fear. The only way to re-interpret Love is to use a separate learning device that is not inspired or supported by Love. This self aware learning device is called the brain. As the brain learns to re-interpret the shattered dream, guilt is born.
But the innocent emotion is not dead. Instead it lives in terror under the intellectual ego, believing it has found safety. When we are alone and no one can see us, the innocent child cries through our eyes. It is lonely and afraid, and we feel the pain of innocence lost, but it is never recognized as being such. We remember the pain, but it is quickly covered over by fear, and then the projection of guilt onto another. The only way to maintain the unnatural condition of fear is to believe it is possible to shatter a dream, and then blame someone else for this fragmented emotion lost in the darkness of hell.
This is how an innocent dream shatters and the fear of expressing emotional honesty begins. This is called self deception. Self deception occurs in an instant of time when innocent honesty is replaced by intellectual deception.
The first time our innocence is shattered, this is so graphic it shocks us into believing that we can think without the protection of Love. We instantly become aware that we have an ability to reason alone. This is our first self aware memory. This sets into an ability to make our life up as we go. This is called make believe. As internal self honesty is replaced with intellectual guilty deception, we learn to rely on the shattered intellectual dream to lead us away from what we do not want, and towards what we believe we intellectually need. But need comes from fear, and it only supports guilt; and so the shattered dream continues.
It is only possible for shattered innocence to experience guilt. Innocence is a whole honest emotion. Babies are not deceptive, and when they smile they do not hide behind a deceptive mask. While the purpose of innocence is to share honest emotional integrity, the purpose of an intellectual deceptive mask is to hide a guilty conscience. What we feel guilty about we hide in the body, and we believe that fear can protect us. But fear is unnatural. It produces an unnatural body condition called anxiety. Anxiety comes from the fear of being emotionally honest, and it is here where the shattered dream lies in wait, hiding in wait for the next victim to appear in the dream.
When a mirror shatters the pieces are jagged and many. The gaps that separate the pieces is a dark and lonely place to reside. At night when we are confronted with dreams of terror, we are being shown where our innocent emotional honesty has gone to hide. It is within this dark loneliness that innocence waits, hoping beyond hope that something will change, but it never does. Once we have found a way to intellectually redefine how we honestly feel, we will no longer consistently speak our truth and hide behind a dishonest smile. Once we have become intellectually brain defined, the whole world teaches that emotional honesty is unnecessary, so we learn to mask the shattered dream behind a smile of discontent. After all, we have the intellect to explain how we feel. It the logical intellect that can explain and reinterpret how we feel. It feels as if it is alive in the remaining shard of glass that is left behind. We want it to replace the loneliness that we feel, but it never does. Now the intellect can explain away our emotional honesty, and it is ok that our smile hides a guilty lie. The problem is our honest emotions have been buried alive.
Even psychology intellectually analizes our emotional honesty, but the intellect acts on guilty lies, not truth. Asking an honest question from the intellect is virtually impossible. The truth is, no one knows how we really feel but us, and no one really knows what we should do to repair the shattered dream. If they did, there would be a greater recovery rate than 2 or 3 % in addictive treatments.
It is time for the innocent integrity of the broken mirror to be restored. It is time to look at what is feared in the dark and restore our innocence. The only way this can be done is to re-examine the unnatural emotion of guilt. There is no such thing as feeling guilty enough until one finally feels better. Emotional honesty makes us feel better, so it is the only way to establish security in an insecure world. The reason we feel better when we tell the truth is because we have dispelled the false emotion that guilt implies. Once guilt is dispelled, the unnatural condition of fear goes along with it.
Guilt is not an honest emotion, and fear is an unnatural body condition that upholds guilt. Fear feeds on guilt, and guilt needs fear to survive. There is no such thing as healthy guilt or healthy fear, for neither one carries the integrity to be emotionally honest. The intellect dot does not know how to be emotionally honest because it was made to hide deceptive guilt.
Being shameless is not a sin. Shamelessness carries the emotional right to be honest. If someone does something deceptive, being filled with shame will not fix the problem. It never has and it never will. Shame is as useless and guilt, as it hides the reason for the shattered dream. Look at shame, and the problem that is covered over by deception will be lost.
It is time to re-examine how we define honesty, for emotional honesty cannot have a double meaning. A double meaning relies on 2 or more intellectual interpretations for a truth, and it is only this that maintains the shattered dream.