How to Accept Change and Gain Control

What does it mean to have "full control'?  Isn't it ironic that the more we want and feel that we need to be in control, the less overall control we end up having?  Then the more frustrated and annoyed we become?

Take a look back.  In this case, let's just think back over this past five years.  Out of all the events that have caused the so-called "major changes" in your life, how many did you actually control?

Now look back at your entire life.  How much true control have you maintained and unconditionally exert in general?  How many rehearsed and well thought-out plans of action flowed exactly as you believed they would? And in the course of action, how many revisions have you needed to alter?  How many times have you thought back and wished you'd have handled it differently? How about in the immediacy of confusion?  In the face of emergency?

Unexpected, unpredictable, unforeseen, generalized change happens.

People change.  Progress changes people.  For example, this "Information Super-Highway" -- that popular term used ten to fifteen years ago mostly in relation to the internet, which soon included an array of other digital communication systems (cell-phones, digital compassing, etc., along with other proposed high-speed communications systems), which U.S. Senator then Vice President Al Gore pushed to successfully implement into main-stream society -- have altered people's motivations and business tactics.  Who consciously planned for this "change" and carried out plans as usual regardless?

Change is a natural part of life, and change is the part of life which keeps it from becoming mundane.  Refraining from accepting change, being insubordinate and obstinate and yielding progress--in other words, being stubborn and unreasonable only impedes our natural process and keeps us from seeing any potential in life.

Financial peaks and tribulations come and pass.  Personal friends, business relations, even romantic love relationships are altered throughout the years.  The key to pay attention to here, however, is that for the most part they are "unintentionally* altered.  Therefore, they were for the greater part changed without any intent or initiation on your part.

So change is inevitable.  Moreover, the more any of us resist change, the more burdensome and difficult any acceptance becomes.  Then combat then becomes unnecessary misery.  Then we lose all control in general.

Thus, the key element in succeeding at this overall process of "change" is maintaining a comprehensive effort to accept that change will inevitably happen.  It's better to keep your attentive focus on the opportunities that arise and immediately attempt to figure out how to benevolently exploit them to work in your favor, rather than to hold focus on the discouragement you feel that it did work out 'the same way it always has' previously.

Search for and then seize the opportunities that change will always bring rather than unproductively dwelling on how it should have been; remember--unexpected, unpredictable, and unforeseen change happens.  Unwanted and undesirable change occurs, but you've got to remain alert to the peripheral changes also occurring in order to alter your focus and transform what you perceive as unacceptable into acceptable.

Here's a good, solid reference to bring to mind:  Do you recall when your very first intimate relationship ended?  All of a sudden so many new singles' domains opened up, but the only way to regain that open-minded judgment was to take your mind off your failed relationship and off your own insecurities.  Only then do you realize that so many choices are available.  The irony of dating is that only once you realize you have no need for a relationship does one emerge.  Do you see how that ties in with so many other features of life?  Say, a new job?  Or all the different locations you have available?  Or a combination of cities and neighborhoods as to where you'd rather build residency and find employment?

Keeping your mind completely open to change, the true way to prepare for change, is the only way to consider all the various options you have available. Then choose to consciously act rather than defensively react.